Before I start this update, I need to remind everyone of a few things about us and our situation. Number One: We have no clue what we are doing. LOL Everything is a learning experience for us and if it does not work, we just learn from it and try something else. We have made and will continue to make a LOT of mistakes and this has caused us to re-do things, sometimes more than once. But the thing is, we try to research things and go from there, but we have no one to consult in person other than Don and he is not always available. I have no parents or grandparents and Chris only has his mother and grandmother, both of which are 10-12 hours away. So we are pretty much on our own. We work through problems and do our best to figure them out. Sometimes I get lucky and someone like Harry Chickpea pops up and tells me to stop everything and start over or fix this or that. But getting lucky is not the norm in my life. So, although things may be done wrong or not like they should have been, we worked hard to do it the best we can and if it ends up not working, we re-think things and start over.
Number two: Because of what happened to us this year, it totally strapped us financially. Normally I would not have gotten into a situation to put us in a bind, but things happened this year that were totally out of our control. I never intended to lose $10,000 on building a house that when torn down was only worth a few thousand. I never intended to have to pay an attorney over $10,000. I never intended us to have to move twice in one year, which is my greatest nightmare I must say. I did intend on buying the old farm we have now. I fell in love with that farm. There is so much beauty there, such a feeling of HOME, a feeling of PEACE, a strong pull saying this is where we need to be. So yeah it was not the best timing in the world and no we are not rich when it comes to money, but waiting would have meant losing the chance to buy the farm that would have been perfect for us. So although we now fall into the “really poor” category, for us it is worth it. We have no problem making the payment every month and we have our basic needs, but making that down payment took everything we had and then some. So for now we struggle. Not in paying the bills, but in many other ways. This means we do not have free money floating around to rent bush hogs and backhoes and good quality cement for fixer up purposes, or new bricks to close up a window or all that stuff we now consider to be luxuries. We pinch pennies and do the best we can with what we have. For instance, if Mr. Johnson, who owns the 70 acres beside us, has some scrap lumber form sawing logs that he plans to burn, we ask for it and haul it to the house anyway we can. It also means that we appreciate the hardwood in the stack but haul the pine as well because we said we would take it all and we can use that for campfires with the kids on cool evenings. So yeah, money is something we have come to appreciate a great deal and splurges are few and far between. We have to have a long discussion when it comes to a wood heater. I wanted a wood cook stove, but that is not going to happen this year. So we wanted a box stove I could cook on and that too may not happen this year. Yeah it is JUST 250 bucks, but that is 250 bucks we do not have right now. So we discuss, should we get one on credit, or try to save the money or just install the old one we used last year, even tho it used wood as fast as we could cut it because of the door problems? So simple things like that just do not come with an easy answer, we have to look at the big picture and discuss it. It will be easier now that Chris is working and not babysitting Perrin every day. I mean we are forever grateful that Amanda could give him 35 bucks a week for that, but what was more important to us was the fact that, Perrin has no father and Chris was able to sacrifice working for 3 years until he got in school. It gave Perrin a male role model that he needed desperately and also helped the family because being a single mother, Amanda could not have afforded an expensive day care for those 3 years. We have no regrets in doing it at all. It is what the family needed and what family should do for each other. But now he is able to work more outside of the home and that will ease the burden financially. So when you read this website or see our pics and think how wrong we are doing things or how we should have bought this or that new or whatever, please keep in mind, we do the best we can and although we are not rich, we are happy, even through our mistakes, we are happy.
Number Three: We are happy. We struggle and such, but at the end of the day when we go to bed, we may be tired and hurt here or there, but we fall asleep each night in peace and we are happy. Our home may not look like something anyone else would want to live in, our life may not look like anything that someone else would want to experience, but it is right for us. Some may not understand it, and at times we don’t either, but we do know it is what we are meant to do because we are truly happy with our chosen lifestyle.
So with all that being said, we had a very busy weekend.
Saturday we got up early and headed to Lowe’s. We needed two things, nails and cheap concrete. We were able to get what we needed and I borowed a truck and we headed home. We don’t have a truck of our own yet, or a tractor or any other farm equipment. We have to do everything pretty much by hand. This means all of the clearing pastures and such is done by hand unless Don shows up with a bush hog and saves us a week’s work in 30 minutes. But this weekend I was able to borrow a truck to haul the concrete in and other things. Amanda followed us to the house and our goal was to work on the root cellar as much as possible. On Saturday we were able to build up the back wall, fill in the cracks in the walls, cement in the window with blocks and bricks, put the support 4×4’s inside and haul all of the wood we needed for the project over to the root cellar. Perrin and Lakota were on hand to help and little Perrin was able to pull 2×4’s all by himself across the yard to the cellar. We had a few moments of stopping to figure out exactly what we needed to do, because I mean, who restores an old concrete root cellar every day? None of us had ever touched concrete that was not already dry. We had no clue how you go about making that stuff work. Well, now when I was 15 I helped mix concrete for something but I remember nothing. But thankfully the stuff comes with instructions on the bag and we were able to at least fake that we knew what we were doing. We got the cracks filled and I could not get that spatula thing to work right, so I just grabbed concrete in my hand and massaged it into the cracks. The big laughable scene was trying to block in the window. We had some concrete block things and they were too long to use two across, so we had to use that and then old bricks we found on the farm. Yeah….it is not pretty and was not pretty when we were doing it either. Trust me, watching us would have been frightening. When I went to sleep I really had dread when I thought about looking at it the next morning. But we did our best. Finally we decided to get a fire going and roast some weenies and marshmallows. We stopped to have a picnic and the kids had a blast. We let them start roasting marshmallows while we finished up a few things. Amanda headed home and Chris, Lakota and myself headed over to Mr. Johnson’s farm to haul some of the free wood he was giving us. Most of it will probably be used for camp fires, but there was some good hardwood pieces that will be good for winter wood. Also some that can be used for kindling. Amazingly, there were some 1×2’s and even 2×2’s that were about 9 feet long that Chris pulled out to use on the shelves for the root cellar. We hauled wood in the dark and then I took Lakota home. She was exhausted and we were as well. As soon as we got home we fell into bed and I do not even remember falling asleep. Carrying 2×4’s and 2×6’s and sub flooring and concrete and then loading and unloading the wood made every bone in my body ache. That plus the fact a 4×4 fell on my head, lol. But we got things done and enjoyed a good night’s sleep.
Sunday we woke up bright and early and started work as soon as the chickens were fed and breakfast was over we headed out to haul more wood from the neighbor’s farm. Then we started on the root cellar. We got a few shelves put up, which was no easy task because Chris new what he was doing, I THINK, but I was finding it hard to follow directions. Amanda showed up and in good time because if I had to carry another heavy board I think I would have fallen over and gave up. We all worked together and got all the shelves done. Me and Perrin started carrying the jars of food to the cellar and it started sprinkling. That was great other than the fact that we had no roof on the cellar. We decided to grab some of the tin roof from the old house and put it over the top. When we get another sunny day we will get the roof done and then Don is coming over to cover it in dirt. He and Chris are going to make a custom door with scrap wood we have. Why is it a custom door? Well because there is nothing on the entire farm that is squared and straight. LOL I am sure if one side of the door is 6 foot high the other side will be 5’4”. The top may measure 30 inches and bottom 24 inches! Who knows! But in putting the frame in and the shelves, it is for certain that the 100 year old cellar is holding strong but definitely showing its age. Regardless, I love it and got teary eyed when I started lining my canned foods onto the shelves. Our hard work paid off and our winter food supply will be safe from freezing. We are not done, but we are getting there. Also, it will make a wonderful storm shelter as well! To me…it is beautiful!
Don delivered the kitchen cabinet on Friday and they got it put up. Again we were reminded just how NOT STRAIGHT our kitchen was and I just laughed and told him it was perfect! We got a few small things done as well. Perrin is out of school today so Chris is keeping him over at Amanda’s. I have someone coming to look at a crack in my windshield today and hope it can be repaired instead of replaced. As soon as the sun shines once more the tin will be removed and we will start building the roof on the cellar. When we have a few sunny days, we are going to attempt, with Don’s help, repairing the main chimney in the house and have it ready for a wood heater soon….whether a new one or the old one from last year. Either way….we will be fine! Life is good and we love our dear old farm!